So the question that creates lasting solutions (and way less struggle for you) is…”What’s driving you to overeat?”
Without answering this question, we can get short-term success by white knuckling our way to a goal weight. We might lose pounds for our wedding or class reunion. Only to see it return with an added layer of guilt and frustration. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Ugh, Ugh, Ugh.
So if you’re tired of either ignoring your weight struggle or giving yourself a hard time about it, try answering this question instead: “What’s driving you to overeat?” Overeating is eating when you’re body isn’t physically hungry. This is what creates extra weight. Another similar question is, “Why do you eat to the point of physical discomfort?”
If you find yourself wanting to run from answering this question, keep reading anyway. Try and eavesdrop on yourself. Listen to what you are thinking. Do you hear self-criticism and harassment? If so, you’re not alone. Trust me, I’ve worked with hundreds of women on this.
Noticing this inner conversation and learning to do it differently, changes everything. When you eavesdrop, you are becoming aware of your default mind patterns. You are watching them with the wiser, kinder part of yourself. This is where true answers that lead to lasting and satisfying solutions come from.
Why does changing your self talk matter? It allows you to get at what’s really driving you to overeat. If you’re a “stress eater” and you’re constantly giving yourself a hard time, what happens? This makes you more stressed and more likely to overeat. No wonder you feel like you’re losing your mind sometimes!
By answering, “Why do I overeat?” with curiosity instead of criticism, you discover answers to what you really want or need if your body isn’t hungry for food. Learning to distinguish physical hunger from emotional hunger gives you the key to set yourself free from diets telling you what to do.
And let’s face it, most of us didn’t get a thorough emotional education. Learning some new skills to soothe our stress and frustration without food, sugar or alcohol feels powerful because then you know you’re in control…even when things get messy. This opens the door to more energy, peace and lots of possibility.
What would you do with all the extra energy if you didn’t spend it worrying about food, your weight and your body?